Finding Freedom in Hair: A New Mom’s Journey with Unruly
When the stylist knocked on my door that Saturday morning, my attire was a reflection of my new life as a mother—a fluffy robe and a pajama-clad baby cradled on my hip. It was a sight that might make some smile, but for me, it was real. I had just embraced my role as a first-time mom, and the thought of leaving my little one, especially for something like a four-hour hair appointment, was an overwhelming thought. Memories flooded back of simpler times—sitting on the floor as my mom elegantly braided my hair. I longed for that connection, but as I stared at my reflection in the mirror, I knew I couldn’t just run out to the braiding shops in Harlem as I once did.
The idea of managing my beauty regime while nurturing a breastfed baby felt almost impossible. I had resigned myself to the idea that my cherished braids would have to wait until my daughter was weaned. That was before I discovered Unruly, a service that marries convenience with quality hairstyling. Co-founded by Abigail Opiah, Unruly reached out to me just when I was craving a bit of my old self back. This hair service platform connects clients with pre-vetted braiders and hairstylists who can come to your home—perfect for a mom like me.
Navigating the world of Black hairstyling can often feel like a daunting task, requiring endless shopping around before you find the right stylist. Over the past five years, I’ve tried numerous braiding shops and independent stylists, often encountering inflated prices and inconsistent quality. The last straw for me was the rigid policies at many places, like exorbitant fees for lateness or extra charges based on hair texture. The moment I stumbled across Unruly, however, it felt like a breath of fresh air. It wasn’t just a new hair service; it was a hopeful solution.
The booking process with Unruly was straightforward and empowering. They offered a plethora of styling options—knotless box braids, boho styles, silk presses, and wig installs—far removed from the usual intimidating dos and don’ts that accompany traditional hairstyling. I chose long, medium-sized knotless box braids in an understated off-black, a classic that felt just right. After I made my selection, the next steps required me to specify my city and neighborhood, allowing Unruly to cater specifically to my location. Customizing my appointment felt exciting; I was finally in control.
While I waited for my stylist to arrive, I felt a tide of nervous anticipation wash over me. It had been a long time since I had experienced the joy of someone else styling my hair. As a new mother balancing endless responsibilities, I was desperate for this moment not just for the fresh look, but as a small gesture of self-care. The tick-tock of the clock mirrored my racing thoughts, but I had faith in this experienced platform that promised to deliver a service tailored to my needs.
When the stylist finally arrived, she brought not just her tools but a refreshing energy that put me at ease. As she began to work, I felt more than just the tugging on my hair; I felt a sense of normalcy return. In those moments, my home transformed from a space of sleepless nights to a sanctuary of self-care. I wasn’t just getting my hair done; I was reclaiming a piece of my identity, one braid at a time. In that shared space with the stylist, between her expert hands and my heartfelt smiles, I rediscovered not only the joy of beautiful hair but the importance of taking time for myself in this new chapter of my life.